The story I’m about to tell is quite gossipy, and the central idea is that abandoning children is a hereditary trait. It’s important to note that the abandonment mentioned in this story isn’t always legal, but more psychological.
Based on this central idea, the story I am going to tell is also very dark. I think the best background music to read this story is Nirvana or Kurt Cobain’s “All My Apologies”.
Apologies). Actually, these past few days, whenever I think of this story, I listen to this song. It’s truly a magical song; the first time you listen to it, you feel downcast. But if you stop and listen again, you want to listen again, and then you feel downcast again, and so on…
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Kurt Cobain
If this song also makes you feel depressed, please accept my apology first (∩_∩)
So I better quickly put this gray story into words——
There was once a mother who abandoned her daughter at birth, or more accurately, sent her to a foster home and then adopted by someone unknown. There may be many reasons for this, but I think the main reason is that she was actually abandoned by her parents shortly after she was born.
Many years later, her daughter, after much searching, found her (for some reason, she never seemed to bother looking for her own daughter). Overnight, this mother not only had a daughter who became a psychotherapist, but also five grandchildren, one of whom was a famous rock star. Not long after, her granddaughter married another even more famous rock star, known to every rock fan worldwide (if you’d followed my advice, you’d probably be listening to his music right now). Soon after, her granddaughter gave birth to another daughter, but this landed her in a custody battle with a child rights organization. They won the case. Later, her grandson-in-law committed suicide, an event said to have a greater impact than the Kennedy assassination (if you consider the number of fans and followers who subsequently committed suicide).
For unknown reasons, this mother never told her daughter who her real father was. Her daughter’s life was quite turbulent. Shortly after becoming a mother, she divorced her husband and, at the age of three, abandoned her daughter (the singer and actress) to the care of relatives. It seemed her entire life was dedicated to discovering the true identities of her mother and father. Finally, at the age of 68, her biological mother was found and discovered to be a world-renowned author, a winner of the Hans Christian Andersen Award for children’s literature! Apparently, she wasn’t satisfied with her mother’s explanation of her biological father and continued to pursue further investigations, ultimately resorting to high-tech DNA paternity testing.
Just a few years ago, this mother’s daughter finally announced to the world with confidence that she had found her biological father through DNA technology. He turned out to be a movie star known to everyone on earth: Marlon Brando!
How about this story? It’s really gossipy, isn’t it? If you want to listen, I’ll start telling you -
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Paula Fox
The mother I want to talk about is Paula Fox.
Fox (1923-), winner of the 1978 Hans Christian Andersen Award, had a particularly wonderful acceptance speech. I particularly remember her piece: “Imagination in a Bottle.” Imagine, what beautiful imagery! You put your beautiful imagination in a bottle and drop it into the sea. Who will pick it up? It reminds me of the book “Secrets of the Seabed.”
There are not many Paula’s works translated into Chinese. Currently, there seems to be only one book that has been officially introduced to China.The Slave
Dancer (also translated as “Dancing Slave” or “The Sinking of the Moonlight”), which won the Caldecott Medal in 1974.
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In Paula’s 2001 autobiography, Borrowed Finery, the first sentence is “I was abandoned at birth.”
Her father was Paul Hervey Fox and her mother was Elsie
Fox, both were moderately successful writers, primarily writing screenplays for television and film. Both were heavy drinkers and frequent travelers, and were clearly unprepared for the birth of Paula (who was born in New York).
Paula was first sent to a nursery, then taken out by her grandmother. When she was five months old, she was taken home by a respectable pastor and raised until she was nearly six. Later, she was taken back by her parents. However, not long after, she was abandoned by her parents again and sent back to the pastor (in fact, the pastor’s wife was also bedridden for many years). At the age of eight, she was taken away by her grandmother again and lived on a plantation in Cuba for two years…
Paula rarely saw her mother in her life, and it seemed that every time she saw her, she would have long-lasting painful memories. In her memoirs, she wrote about the feeling when she first saw her mother when she was just over five years old: “I felt that if she could have hidden her crime, she would have killed me.” (“I
sensed that if she could have hidden the act she would have killed
me.”)
In Paula’s recollection, the rare encounters between the mother and daughter were characterized by either hysteria or cruelty. On one occasion, the mother threw a glass of water at her daughter. Paula was deeply confused by her mother’s attitude. She felt responsible for everything and desperately wondered why her birth and existence were such a disaster for her mother.
Paula hadn’t seen her mother for nearly 40 years. The last time she saw her mother was before she died at the age of 92. That meeting also brought her an extremely strange feeling, like a disaster. For several months after her mother’s death, Paula still felt very empty and confused, but she didn’t feel sad at all.
Paula’s daughter, Linda Carroll, also wrote a memoir, Her Mother’s Daughter.
Daughter (2006). She described her grandmother as a “very interesting and unusual person, very kind, but not warm. She was very cold to people.”
So, how could Paula Fox, who grew up in such a situation, “survive” and strive to become a respected writer?
This is perhaps primarily due to the venerable pastor who provided a temporary home for the abandoned little girl. More importantly, whether intentionally or not, he nurtured her into a bookworm. He himself was a lover of classic literature, dabbling in the humanities, and his home contained a large collection of such books. He taught the little girl to read, and she was filled with love and awe for the world constructed by imagination and thought. Paula recalls that when she was five years old, she suggested to the pastor that he write a sermon on the theme “Waterfall,” for which she provided specific ideas and material. This was the first time she recalls feeling the urge to write. Despite her subsequent life of wandering, her love of reading remained with her. Wherever she went, she would always seek out a library. She says that with the exception of her two years in Cuba (when she couldn’t find a library), she never lost herself in the library.
However, this path to adulthood was fraught with hardship. Her early life was said to be turbulent and disorienting. She fell in love, married, and divorced before she was twenty. When her daughter was born in 1944, she found herself unprepared for life. As if following a family tradition, she abandoned her daughter, even more so than her own parents. She didn’t even ask about her whereabouts and never made any further efforts to address the situation. Perhaps she feared a repeat of her mother’s relationship with her daughter.
It wasn’t until her late 30s that Paula found a stable marriage and began a teaching career. It was around then that she discovered her passion to be a writer. As an avid reader, she decided the best way to do that was to write books for herself.
Paula has always said she doesn’t write specifically for children. She doesn’t choose her audience. But perhaps it’s precisely because of the shadow of her childhood that she can’t escape that she often unconsciously recounts the fantasies of childhood and adolescence, delicately describing the side of the child’s psyche often overlooked by adults, a side filled with shadows and struggles.
There’s not much information specifically about Paula’s daughter, but since she has a mother who’s a literary heavyweight and a daughter who’s incredibly famous and has published her own autobiography, there’s a lot of information out there. I don’t know how much of this information is true, but since this is just casual conversation, I’ll just share some of the more gossipy bits.
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Linda Carroll
Linda Carroll
Carroll was born in Los Angeles in 1944. Her mother had apparently always evaded the question of her biological father, stating only that it was the result of a hasty marriage. It wasn’t until 2003 that she announced that a DNA test had confirmed her biological father was Marlon Brando. She claimed that her mother had indeed met the movie star, who was a year younger than her, and that they had a brief romance, but that she was unaware of her mother’s pregnancy and birth.
But the media obviously loved this news: Marlon Brando became Courtney Love.
Love)‘s grandfather! This in itself is very dramatic and explosive.
But the other parties involved did not seem to respond seriously to the announcement. Before this, there were at least 30 children rumored to be Marlon Brando’s children, but he only publicly acknowledged 11.
However, considering Linda was nearly 60 when she made this announcement, I don’t think we can simply laugh it off. Honestly, seeing this news, I felt a strong sense of sympathy and sadness. I believe that for Linda, her primary concern was the deepest desire to know who her biological father was—and where she came from.
Linda was adopted by an Italian family. She graduated from high school at the age of 17, got married before she was 20, and gave birth to her daughter, Courtney Love, at the age of 20.
Love’s marriage began to break down, and then divorce began, accompanied by a lawsuit for the custody of their daughter. After divorce, she got married, got divorced again, and then got married again. By the time Love was 7 years old, she had already experienced her mother’s three marriages.
The history of abandoning children was strangely repeating itself. One gossip piece described the situation: “The scene at home resembled a hippie film set, with long-haired, naked hippie youths everywhere, chasing and playing, making loud noises. All this made little Courtney a hippie in her school, and she was repeatedly expelled from one school after another. She also became the target of countless psychologists’ treatment—she even stole things from stores…”
There are many accounts of Love’s upbringing, but one thing that’s generally confirmed is that her mother, Linda, barely cared about her and their relationship was extremely strained. Around the age of seven, Linda moved to New Zealand, leaving Love with relatives.
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Courtney Love — It’s rare to find a painting that’s quite dignified :)
Courtney Love is now known as “the most controversial woman in rock history”. This reputation is not mainly due to her singing (of course she also has many fans), but mainly due to her beauty, sexiness and wildness, and also because she is the grunge king Kurt Cobain.
Cobain
For example, in 2009, there were two major news stories about her: first, she discovered that $5.3 billion of the estate left to her and their daughter by her ex-husband Cobain was missing! Second, the court ruled that her 17-year-old daughter would be under the custody of Cobain’s mother and sister.
There’s so much news and pictures about Courtney Love (sometimes translated as “Courtney Love”) that I won’t rehash them all; those interested can easily find some online. I’ll just touch on a few gossips that seem to relate to her fateful upbringing.
Courtney Love
Love was born in San Francisco in 1964. From the perspective of a typical family, her childhood was turbulent from the very beginning. According to her mother’s biography, she was exposed to psychedelic drugs at the age of four, began psychotherapy at the age of six, was caught reading pornography at the age of nine, and started drinking hard liquor at the age of 12. She was sent to a juvenile detention center at the age of 13. Fortunately, she met an intern from the UK who gave her three wild punk rock cassettes and told her that this was the world that truly belonged to her. From the age of seventeen or eighteen, she embarked on a decade of wandering and wild life, even working as a stripper, but she eventually found success in rock music. Her life began to become more coherent after she formed the band “Hole” in 1989.
In 1990, Courtney Love met Kurt Cobain and, incredibly, fell in love. It’s said to be incredible because anyone who knew them couldn’t believe they could actually be in a relationship. It’s said that Love courted Cobain like any innocent girl. Cobain himself probably couldn’t have imagined that he would accept Love’s love and even—get married!
Yet, in February 1992, they did marry, and six months later, their daughter, Frances, was born—and a lawsuit immediately ensued.
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Look at this family of three ^_^
A child rights organization launched an investigation and lawsuit, arguing that the two rock stars were not capable of raising their daughter because there were rumors that they had even been taking drugs from the time they became pregnant to the time they gave birth! Although they won the court investigation and lawsuit, they still separated their two-week-old daughter from them for a short period of time, and the damage caused by the rumors was enormous.
well———-!
A few words about Kurt Cobain: I think he was truly a miserable man. He, too, grew up in a divorced and broken family, his path through darkness and chaos. If it weren’t for that heart-wrenching rock music, he would have seemed to be descending into the abyss of hell. He went from being an underground poet to an underground rock musician, only to suddenly discover that there were so many people like him. He found extreme excitement and momentary solace in his breathless singing, but the moment the guitar stopped, darkness seemed to envelop him once again. What mattered the cheers of tens of millions of fans? What mattered the billions of dollars in wealth? In his songs, he roared, “Suicide is the only path to light”… After his death, even at his memorial service, his fans began committing suicide in tandem… Poor people, perhaps for them, that was indeed a relief.
In April 1994, Kurt Cobain committed suicide in his apartment. He left behind a famous suicide note, in which he mentioned his wife and daughter:
“I have a wife who is a goddess, who strives desperately for ideals and to impress people, and a daughter who reminds me so much of myself, who showers everyone she meets with love and happy kisses because everyone is so nice and doesn’t want to hurt her. It horrifies me so much that I just stare blankly in amazement. I can’t bear the thought that Frances is going to become a self-destructive, self-destructive rock singer like me.”
The last part of the suicide note was addressed to his wife and 19-month-old daughter:
Frances and Connie,
I will accompany you until old age
Connie, please keep going.
For Frances, for her life
Her life would be much happier without me.
I love you guys! I love you guys!!
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The song I’m listening to now, “All Apologies,” can also be said to be written by Cobain for his wife and daughter.
After Kurt Cobain’s death, Courtney Love’s wild lifestyle seemed to have remained largely unaffected, or perhaps even intensified. However, my concern is only with her daughter.
Courtney Love has been involved in several lawsuits involving the custody of her daughter, and has also been involved in several drug-related lawsuits and was sentenced to compulsory drug rehabilitation.
However, various sources indicate that Courtney Love served as the guardian for most of her daughter’s life. When her mother was unable to act as guardian due to a lawsuit or illness, her grandmother and aunt would serve as temporary guardians.
In 2008, Connie threw a lavish party for her daughter’s sixteenth birthday, which included a private concert and reportedly cost her mother $326,000.
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Love and her daughter
In 2009, through a lawsuit, seventeen-year-old daughter Frances chose to live with her grandmother and aunt.
I sincerely wish Paula Fox’s great-granddaughter Frances a truly happy life!
That’s all for this gossip story.
I don’t know what I said either—
All in all is all we all are…
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Paula
…….
Linda
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Love
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Frances
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Paula Fox, aged three and a half (photographed between 1926 and 1927)
