{"id":3650,"date":"2010-01-24T21:52:33","date_gmt":"2010-01-24T13:52:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/2010\/01\/24\/xu_liao_ai_20100124-2\/"},"modified":"2010-01-24T21:52:33","modified_gmt":"2010-01-24T13:52:33","slug":"xu_liao_ai_20100124-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/2010\/01\/24\/xu_liao_ai_20100124-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Con\u00adtin\u00adu\u00ading the Gos\u00adsip Chap\u00adter of Love Cul\u00adti\u00adva\u00adtion \u2014 A Sto\u00adry of a Moth\u00ader Who Aban\u00addoned Her Child\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>The sto\u00adry I\u2019m about to tell is quite gos\u00adsipy, and the cen\u00adtral idea is that aban\u00addon\u00ading chil\u00addren is a hered\u00adi\u00adtary trait. It\u2019s impor\u00adtant to note that the aban\u00addon\u00adment men\u00adtioned in this sto\u00adry isn\u2019t always legal, but more psy\u00adcho\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nBased on this cen\u00adtral idea, the sto\u00adry I am going to tell is also very dark. I think the best back\u00adground music to read this sto\u00adry is Nir\u00advana or Kurt Cobain\u2019s \u201cAll My Apolo\u00adgies\u201d.<br>\nApolo\u00adgies). Actu\u00adal\u00adly, these past few days, when\u00adev\u00ader I think of this sto\u00adry, I lis\u00adten to this song. It\u2019s tru\u00adly a mag\u00adi\u00adcal song; the first time you lis\u00adten to it, you feel down\u00adcast. But if you stop and lis\u00adten again, you want to lis\u00adten again, and then you feel down\u00adcast again, and so on\u2026<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012093452976.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012093452976.jpg<\/a><br>\nKurt Cobain<br>\n<br>\n<em>If this song also makes you feel depressed, please accept my apol\u00ado\u00adgy first (\u2229_\u2229)<\/em><br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nSo I bet\u00adter quick\u00adly put this gray sto\u00adry into words\u2014\u2014<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There was once a moth\u00ader who aban\u00addoned her daugh\u00adter at birth, or more accu\u00adrate\u00adly, sent her to a fos\u00adter home and then adopt\u00aded by some\u00adone unknown. There may be many rea\u00adsons for this, but I think the main rea\u00adson is that she was actu\u00adal\u00adly aban\u00addoned by her par\u00adents short\u00adly after she was born.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Many years lat\u00ader, her daugh\u00adter, after much search\u00ading, found her (for some rea\u00adson, she nev\u00ader seemed to both\u00ader look\u00ading for her own daugh\u00adter). Overnight, this moth\u00ader not only had a daugh\u00adter who became a psy\u00adchother\u00ada\u00adpist, but also five grand\u00adchil\u00addren, one of whom was a famous rock star. Not long after, her grand\u00addaugh\u00adter mar\u00adried anoth\u00ader even more famous rock star, known to every rock fan world\u00adwide (if you\u2019d fol\u00adlowed my advice, you\u2019d prob\u00ada\u00adbly be lis\u00adten\u00ading to his music right now). Soon after, her grand\u00addaugh\u00adter gave birth to anoth\u00ader daugh\u00adter, but this land\u00aded her in a cus\u00adtody bat\u00adtle with a child rights orga\u00adni\u00adza\u00adtion. They won the case. Lat\u00ader, her grand\u00adson-in-law com\u00admit\u00adted sui\u00adcide, an event said to have a greater impact than the Kennedy assas\u00adsi\u00adna\u00adtion (if you con\u00adsid\u00ader the num\u00adber of fans and fol\u00adlow\u00aders who sub\u00adse\u00adquent\u00adly com\u00admit\u00adted sui\u00adcide).<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>For unknown rea\u00adsons, this moth\u00ader nev\u00ader told her daugh\u00adter who her real father was. Her daugh\u00adter\u2019s life was quite tur\u00adbu\u00adlent. Short\u00adly after becom\u00ading a moth\u00ader, she divorced her hus\u00adband and, at the age of three, aban\u00addoned her daugh\u00adter (the singer and actress) to the care of rel\u00ada\u00adtives. It seemed her entire life was ded\u00adi\u00adcat\u00aded to dis\u00adcov\u00ader\u00ading the true iden\u00adti\u00adties of her moth\u00ader and father. Final\u00adly, at the age of 68, her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal moth\u00ader was found and dis\u00adcov\u00adered to be a world-renowned author, a win\u00adner of the Hans Chris\u00adt\u00adian Ander\u00adsen Award for chil\u00addren\u2019s lit\u00ader\u00ada\u00adture! Appar\u00adent\u00adly, she was\u00adn\u2019t sat\u00adis\u00adfied with her moth\u00ader\u2019s expla\u00adna\u00adtion of her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal father and con\u00adtin\u00adued to pur\u00adsue fur\u00adther inves\u00adti\u00adga\u00adtions, ulti\u00admate\u00adly resort\u00ading to high-tech DNA pater\u00adni\u00adty test\u00ading.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Just a few years ago, this moth\u00ader\u2019s daugh\u00adter final\u00adly announced to the world with con\u00adfi\u00addence that she had found her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal father through DNA tech\u00adnol\u00ado\u00adgy. He turned out to be a movie star known to every\u00adone on earth: Mar\u00adlon Bran\u00addo!<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nHow about this sto\u00adry? It\u2019s real\u00adly gos\u00adsipy, isn\u2019t it? If you want to lis\u00adten, I\u2019ll start telling you -<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012093555511.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012093555511.jpg<\/a><br>\nPaula Fox<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nThe moth\u00ader I want to talk about is Paula Fox.<br>\nFox (1923-), win\u00adner of the 1978 Hans Chris\u00adt\u00adian Ander\u00adsen Award, had a par\u00adtic\u00adu\u00adlar\u00adly won\u00adder\u00adful accep\u00adtance speech. I par\u00adtic\u00adu\u00adlar\u00adly remem\u00adber her piece: \u201cImag\u00adi\u00adna\u00adtion in a Bot\u00adtle.\u201d Imag\u00adine, what beau\u00adti\u00adful imagery! You put your beau\u00adti\u00adful imag\u00adi\u00adna\u00adtion in a bot\u00adtle and drop it into the sea. Who will pick it up? It reminds me of the book \u201cSecrets of the Seabed.\u201d<br>\nThere are not many Paula\u2019s works trans\u00adlat\u00aded into Chi\u00adnese. Cur\u00adrent\u00adly, there seems to be only one book that has been offi\u00adcial\u00adly intro\u00adduced to Chi\u00adna.<a href=\"http:\/\/www.hongniba.com.cn\/bookclub\/bookinfo.jsp?bookid=20004637\" target=\"_blank\"><u>The Slave<br>\nDancer (also trans\u00adlat\u00aded as \u201cDanc\u00ading Slave\u201d or \u201cThe Sink\u00ading of the Moon\u00adlight\u201d)<\/u><\/a>, which won the Calde\u00adcott Medal in 1974.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.hongniba.com.cn\/bookclub\/bookinfo.jsp?bookid=20004637\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.hongniba.com.cn\/bookclub\/images\/books\/book_20004637_s.jpg\">http:\/\/www.hongniba.com.cn\/bookclub\/images\/books\/book_20004637_s.jpg<\/a><br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nIn Paula\u2019s 2001 auto\u00adbi\u00adog\u00adra\u00adphy, Bor\u00adrowed Fin\u00adery, the first sen\u00adtence is \u201cI was aban\u00addoned at birth.\u201d<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nHer father was Paul Her\u00advey Fox and her moth\u00ader was Elsie<br>\nFox, both were mod\u00ader\u00adate\u00adly suc\u00adcess\u00adful writ\u00aders, pri\u00admar\u00adi\u00adly writ\u00ading screen\u00adplays for tele\u00advi\u00adsion and film. Both were heavy drinkers and fre\u00adquent trav\u00adel\u00aders, and were clear\u00adly unpre\u00adpared for the birth of Paula (who was born in New York).<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Paula was first sent to a nurs\u00adery, then tak\u00aden out by her grand\u00admoth\u00ader. When she was five months old, she was tak\u00aden home by a respectable pas\u00adtor and raised until she was near\u00adly six. Lat\u00ader, she was tak\u00aden back by her par\u00adents. How\u00adev\u00ader, not long after, she was aban\u00addoned by her par\u00adents again and sent back to the pas\u00adtor (in fact, the pas\u00adtor\u2019s wife was also bedrid\u00adden for many years). At the age of eight, she was tak\u00aden away by her grand\u00admoth\u00ader again and lived on a plan\u00adta\u00adtion in Cuba for two years\u2026<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Paula rarely saw her moth\u00ader in her life, and it seemed that every time she saw her, she would have long-last\u00ading painful mem\u00ado\u00adries. In her mem\u00adoirs, she wrote about the feel\u00ading when she first saw her moth\u00ader when she was just over five years old: \u201cI felt that if she could have hid\u00adden her crime, she would have killed me.\u201d (\u201cI<br>\nsensed that if she could have hid\u00adden the act she would have killed<br>\nme.\u201d)<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In Paula\u2019s rec\u00adol\u00adlec\u00adtion, the rare encoun\u00adters between the moth\u00ader and daugh\u00adter were char\u00adac\u00adter\u00adized by either hys\u00adte\u00adria or cru\u00adel\u00adty. On one occa\u00adsion, the moth\u00ader threw a glass of water at her daugh\u00adter. Paula was deeply con\u00adfused by her moth\u00ader\u2019s atti\u00adtude. She felt respon\u00adsi\u00adble for every\u00adthing and des\u00adper\u00adate\u00adly won\u00addered why her birth and exis\u00adtence were such a dis\u00adas\u00adter for her moth\u00ader.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Paula had\u00adn\u2019t seen her moth\u00ader for near\u00adly 40 years. The last time she saw her moth\u00ader was before she died at the age of 92. That meet\u00ading also brought her an extreme\u00adly strange feel\u00ading, like a dis\u00adas\u00adter. For sev\u00ader\u00adal months after her moth\u00ader\u2019s death, Paula still felt very emp\u00adty and con\u00adfused, but she did\u00adn\u2019t feel sad at all.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nPaula\u2019s daugh\u00adter, Lin\u00adda Car\u00adroll, also wrote a mem\u00adoir, Her Moth\u00ader\u2019s Daugh\u00adter.<br>\nDaugh\u00adter (2006). She described her grand\u00admoth\u00ader as a \u201cvery inter\u00adest\u00ading and unusu\u00adal per\u00adson, very kind, but not warm. She was very cold to peo\u00adple.\u201d<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nSo, how could Paula Fox, who grew up in such a sit\u00adu\u00ada\u00adtion, \u201csur\u00advive\u201d and strive to become a respect\u00aded writer?<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This is per\u00adhaps pri\u00admar\u00adi\u00adly due to the ven\u00ader\u00ada\u00adble pas\u00adtor who pro\u00advid\u00aded a tem\u00adpo\u00adrary home for the aban\u00addoned lit\u00adtle girl. More impor\u00adtant\u00adly, whether inten\u00adtion\u00adal\u00adly or not, he nur\u00adtured her into a book\u00adworm. He him\u00adself was a lover of clas\u00adsic lit\u00ader\u00ada\u00adture, dab\u00adbling in the human\u00adi\u00adties, and his home con\u00adtained a large col\u00adlec\u00adtion of such books. He taught the lit\u00adtle girl to read, and she was filled with love and awe for the world con\u00adstruct\u00aded by imag\u00adi\u00adna\u00adtion and thought. Paula recalls that when she was five years old, she sug\u00adgest\u00aded to the pas\u00adtor that he write a ser\u00admon on the theme \u201cWater\u00adfall,\u201d for which she pro\u00advid\u00aded spe\u00adcif\u00adic ideas and mate\u00adr\u00adi\u00adal. This was the first time she recalls feel\u00ading the urge to write. Despite her sub\u00adse\u00adquent life of wan\u00adder\u00ading, her love of read\u00ading remained with her. Wher\u00adev\u00ader she went, she would always seek out a library. She says that with the excep\u00adtion of her two years in Cuba (when she could\u00adn\u2019t find a library), she nev\u00ader lost her\u00adself in the library.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>How\u00adev\u00ader, this path to adult\u00adhood was fraught with hard\u00adship. Her ear\u00adly life was said to be tur\u00adbu\u00adlent and dis\u00adori\u00adent\u00ading. She fell in love, mar\u00adried, and divorced before she was twen\u00adty. When her daugh\u00adter was born in 1944, she found her\u00adself unpre\u00adpared for life. As if fol\u00adlow\u00ading a fam\u00adi\u00adly tra\u00addi\u00adtion, she aban\u00addoned her daugh\u00adter, even more so than her own par\u00adents. She did\u00adn\u2019t even ask about her where\u00adabouts and nev\u00ader made any fur\u00adther efforts to address the sit\u00adu\u00ada\u00adtion. Per\u00adhaps she feared a repeat of her moth\u00ader\u2019s rela\u00adtion\u00adship with her daugh\u00adter.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It was\u00adn\u2019t until her late 30s that Paula found a sta\u00adble mar\u00adriage and began a teach\u00ading career. It was around then that she dis\u00adcov\u00adered her pas\u00adsion to be a writer. As an avid read\u00ader, she decid\u00aded the best way to do that was to write books for her\u00adself.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Paula has always said she does\u00adn\u2019t write specif\u00adi\u00adcal\u00adly for chil\u00addren. She does\u00adn\u2019t choose her audi\u00adence. But per\u00adhaps it\u2019s pre\u00adcise\u00adly because of the shad\u00adow of her child\u00adhood that she can\u2019t escape that she often uncon\u00adscious\u00adly recounts the fan\u00adtasies of child\u00adhood and ado\u00adles\u00adcence, del\u00adi\u00adcate\u00adly describ\u00ading the side of the child\u2019s psy\u00adche often over\u00adlooked by adults, a side filled with shad\u00adows and strug\u00adgles.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s not much infor\u00adma\u00adtion specif\u00adi\u00adcal\u00adly about Paula\u2019s daugh\u00adter, but since she has a moth\u00ader who\u2019s a lit\u00ader\u00adary heavy\u00adweight and a daugh\u00adter who\u2019s incred\u00adi\u00adbly famous and has pub\u00adlished her own auto\u00adbi\u00adog\u00adra\u00adphy, there\u2019s a lot of infor\u00adma\u00adtion out there. I don\u2019t know how much of this infor\u00adma\u00adtion is true, but since this is just casu\u00adal con\u00adver\u00adsa\u00adtion, I\u2019ll just share some of the more gos\u00adsipy bits.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012094437442.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012094437442.jpg<\/a><br>\nLin\u00adda Car\u00adroll<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nLin\u00adda Car\u00adroll<br>\nCar\u00adroll was born in Los Ange\u00adles in 1944. Her moth\u00ader had appar\u00adent\u00adly always evad\u00aded the ques\u00adtion of her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal father, stat\u00ading only that it was the result of a hasty mar\u00adriage. It was\u00adn\u2019t until 2003 that she announced that a DNA test had con\u00adfirmed her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal father was Mar\u00adlon Bran\u00addo. She claimed that her moth\u00ader had indeed met the movie star, who was a year younger than her, and that they had a brief romance, but that she was unaware of her moth\u00ader\u2019s preg\u00adnan\u00adcy and birth.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nBut the media obvi\u00adous\u00adly loved this news: Mar\u00adlon Bran\u00addo became Court\u00adney Love.<br>\nLove)\u2018s grand\u00adfa\u00adther! This in itself is very dra\u00admat\u00adic and explo\u00adsive.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nBut the oth\u00ader par\u00adties involved did not seem to respond seri\u00adous\u00adly to the announce\u00adment. Before this, there were at least 30 chil\u00addren rumored to be Mar\u00adlon Bran\u00addo\u2019s chil\u00addren, but he only pub\u00adlicly acknowl\u00adedged 11.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>How\u00adev\u00ader, con\u00adsid\u00ader\u00ading Lin\u00adda was near\u00adly 60 when she made this announce\u00adment, I don\u2019t think we can sim\u00adply laugh it off. Hon\u00adest\u00adly, see\u00ading this news, I felt a strong sense of sym\u00adpa\u00adthy and sad\u00adness. I believe that for Lin\u00adda, her pri\u00adma\u00adry con\u00adcern was the deep\u00adest desire to know who her bio\u00adlog\u00adi\u00adcal father was\u2014and where she came from.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nLin\u00adda was adopt\u00aded by an Ital\u00adian fam\u00adi\u00adly. She grad\u00adu\u00adat\u00aded from high school at the age of 17, got mar\u00adried before she was 20, and gave birth to her daugh\u00adter, Court\u00adney Love, at the age of 20.<br>\nLove\u2019s mar\u00adriage began to break down, and then divorce began, accom\u00adpa\u00adnied by a law\u00adsuit for the cus\u00adtody of their daugh\u00adter. After divorce, she got mar\u00adried, got divorced again, and then got mar\u00adried again. By the time Love was 7 years old, she had already expe\u00adri\u00adenced her moth\u00ader\u2019s three mar\u00adriages.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The his\u00adto\u00adry of aban\u00addon\u00ading chil\u00addren was strange\u00adly repeat\u00ading itself. One gos\u00adsip piece described the sit\u00adu\u00ada\u00adtion: \u201cThe scene at home resem\u00adbled a hip\u00adpie film set, with long-haired, naked hip\u00adpie youths every\u00adwhere, chas\u00ading and play\u00ading, mak\u00ading loud nois\u00ades. All this made lit\u00adtle Court\u00adney a hip\u00adpie in her school, and she was repeat\u00aded\u00adly expelled from one school after anoth\u00ader. She also became the tar\u00adget of count\u00adless psy\u00adchol\u00ado\u00adgists\u2019 treatment\u2014she even stole things from stores\u2026\u201d<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There are many accounts of Love\u2019s upbring\u00ading, but one thing that\u2019s gen\u00ader\u00adal\u00adly con\u00adfirmed is that her moth\u00ader, Lin\u00adda, bare\u00adly cared about her and their rela\u00adtion\u00adship was extreme\u00adly strained. Around the age of sev\u00aden, Lin\u00adda moved to New Zealand, leav\u00ading Love with rel\u00ada\u00adtives.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095157819.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095157819.jpg<\/a><br>\nCourt\u00adney Love \u2014 It\u2019s rare to find a paint\u00ading that\u2019s quite dig\u00adni\u00adfied :)<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Court\u00adney Love is now known as \u201cthe most con\u00adtro\u00adver\u00adsial woman in rock his\u00adto\u00adry\u201d. This rep\u00adu\u00adta\u00adtion is not main\u00adly due to her singing (of course she also has many fans), but main\u00adly due to her beau\u00adty, sex\u00adi\u00adness and wild\u00adness, and also because she is the grunge king Kurt Cobain.<br>\nCobain<br>\nFor exam\u00adple, in 2009, there were two major news sto\u00adries about her: first, she dis\u00adcov\u00adered that $5.3 bil\u00adlion of the estate left to her and their daugh\u00adter by her ex-hus\u00adband Cobain was miss\u00ading! Sec\u00adond, the court ruled that her 17-year-old daugh\u00adter would be under the cus\u00adtody of Cobain\u2019s moth\u00ader and sis\u00adter.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s so much news and pic\u00adtures about Court\u00adney Love (some\u00adtimes trans\u00adlat\u00aded as \u201cCourt\u00adney Love\u201d) that I won\u2019t rehash them all; those inter\u00adest\u00aded can eas\u00adi\u00adly find some online. I\u2019ll just touch on a few gos\u00adsips that seem to relate to her fate\u00adful upbring\u00ading.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nCourt\u00adney Love<br>\nLove was born in San Fran\u00adcis\u00adco in 1964. From the per\u00adspec\u00adtive of a typ\u00adi\u00adcal fam\u00adi\u00adly, her child\u00adhood was tur\u00adbu\u00adlent from the very begin\u00adning. Accord\u00ading to her moth\u00ader\u2019s biog\u00adra\u00adphy, she was exposed to psy\u00adche\u00addel\u00adic drugs at the age of four, began psy\u00adchother\u00ada\u00adpy at the age of six, was caught read\u00ading pornog\u00adra\u00adphy at the age of nine, and start\u00aded drink\u00ading hard liquor at the age of 12. She was sent to a juve\u00adnile deten\u00adtion cen\u00adter at the age of 13. For\u00adtu\u00adnate\u00adly, she met an intern from the UK who gave her three wild punk rock cas\u00adsettes and told her that this was the world that tru\u00adly belonged to her. From the age of sev\u00aden\u00adteen or eigh\u00adteen, she embarked on a decade of wan\u00adder\u00ading and wild life, even work\u00ading as a strip\u00adper, but she even\u00adtu\u00adal\u00adly found suc\u00adcess in rock music. Her life began to become more coher\u00adent after she formed the band \u201cHole\u201d in 1989.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In 1990, Court\u00adney Love met Kurt Cobain and, incred\u00adi\u00adbly, fell in love. It\u2019s said to be incred\u00adi\u00adble because any\u00adone who knew them could\u00adn\u2019t believe they could actu\u00adal\u00adly be in a rela\u00adtion\u00adship. It\u2019s said that Love court\u00aded Cobain like any inno\u00adcent girl. Cobain him\u00adself prob\u00ada\u00adbly could\u00adn\u2019t have imag\u00adined that he would accept Love\u2019s love and even\u2014get mar\u00adried!<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nYet, in Feb\u00adru\u00adary 1992, they did mar\u00adry, and six months lat\u00ader, their daugh\u00adter, Frances, was born\u2014and a law\u00adsuit imme\u00addi\u00adate\u00adly ensued.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095349945.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095349945.jpg<\/a><br>\nLook at this fam\u00adi\u00adly of three ^_^<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A child rights orga\u00adni\u00adza\u00adtion launched an inves\u00adti\u00adga\u00adtion and law\u00adsuit, argu\u00ading that the two rock stars were not capa\u00adble of rais\u00ading their daugh\u00adter because there were rumors that they had even been tak\u00ading drugs from the time they became preg\u00adnant to the time they gave birth! Although they won the court inves\u00adti\u00adga\u00adtion and law\u00adsuit, they still sep\u00ada\u00adrat\u00aded their two-week-old daugh\u00adter from them for a short peri\u00adod of time, and the dam\u00adage caused by the rumors was enor\u00admous.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nwell\u2014\u2014\u2014-!<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A few words about Kurt Cobain: I think he was tru\u00adly a mis\u00ader\u00adable man. He, too, grew up in a divorced and bro\u00adken fam\u00adi\u00adly, his path through dark\u00adness and chaos. If it weren\u2019t for that heart-wrench\u00ading rock music, he would have seemed to be descend\u00ading into the abyss of hell. He went from being an under\u00adground poet to an under\u00adground rock musi\u00adcian, only to sud\u00adden\u00adly dis\u00adcov\u00ader that there were so many peo\u00adple like him. He found extreme excite\u00adment and momen\u00adtary solace in his breath\u00adless singing, but the moment the gui\u00adtar stopped, dark\u00adness seemed to envel\u00adop him once again. What mat\u00adtered the cheers of tens of mil\u00adlions of fans? What mat\u00adtered the bil\u00adlions of dol\u00adlars in wealth? In his songs, he roared, \u201cSui\u00adcide is the only path to light\u201d\u2026 After his death, even at his memo\u00adr\u00adi\u00adal ser\u00advice, his fans began com\u00admit\u00adting sui\u00adcide in tan\u00addem\u2026 Poor peo\u00adple, per\u00adhaps for them, that was indeed a relief.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nIn April 1994, Kurt Cobain com\u00admit\u00adted sui\u00adcide in his apart\u00adment. He left behind a famous sui\u00adcide note, in which he men\u00adtioned his wife and daugh\u00adter:<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI have a wife who is a god\u00addess, who strives des\u00adper\u00adate\u00adly for ideals and to impress peo\u00adple, and a daugh\u00adter who reminds me so much of myself, who show\u00aders every\u00adone she meets with love and hap\u00adpy kiss\u00ades because every\u00adone is so nice and does\u00adn\u2019t want to hurt her. It hor\u00adri\u00adfies me so much that I just stare blankly in amaze\u00adment. I can\u2019t bear the thought that Frances is going to become a self-destruc\u00adtive, self-destruc\u00adtive rock singer like me.\u201d<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nThe last part of the sui\u00adcide note was addressed to his wife and 19-month-old daugh\u00adter:<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nFrances and Con\u00adnie,<\/p>\n<p>I will accom\u00adpa\u00adny you until old age<\/p>\n<p>Con\u00adnie, please keep going.<\/p>\n<p>For Frances, for her life<\/p>\n<p>Her life would be much hap\u00adpi\u00ader with\u00adout me.<\/p>\n<p>I love you guys! I love you guys!!<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095829200.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012095829200.jpg<\/a><br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nThe song I\u2019m lis\u00adten\u00ading to now, \u201cAll Apolo\u00adgies,\u201d can also be said to be writ\u00adten by Cobain for his wife and daugh\u00adter.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After Kurt Cobain\u2019s death, Court\u00adney Love\u2019s wild lifestyle seemed to have remained large\u00adly unaf\u00adfect\u00aded, or per\u00adhaps even inten\u00adsi\u00adfied. How\u00adev\u00ader, my con\u00adcern is only with her daugh\u00adter.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nCourt\u00adney Love has been involved in sev\u00ader\u00adal law\u00adsuits involv\u00ading the cus\u00adtody of her daugh\u00adter, and has also been involved in sev\u00ader\u00adal drug-relat\u00aded law\u00adsuits and was sen\u00adtenced to com\u00adpul\u00adso\u00adry drug reha\u00adbil\u00adi\u00adta\u00adtion.<br>\n&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>How\u00adev\u00ader, var\u00adi\u00adous sources indi\u00adcate that Court\u00adney Love served as the guardian for most of her daugh\u00adter\u2019s life. When her moth\u00ader was unable to act as guardian due to a law\u00adsuit or ill\u00adness, her grand\u00admoth\u00ader and aunt would serve as tem\u00adpo\u00adrary guardians.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nIn 2008, Con\u00adnie threw a lav\u00adish par\u00adty for her daugh\u00adter\u2019s six\u00adteenth birth\u00adday, which includ\u00aded a pri\u00advate con\u00adcert and report\u00aded\u00adly cost her moth\u00ader $326,000.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/20101209598163.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/20101209598163.jpg<\/a><br>\nLove and her daugh\u00adter<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nIn 2009, through a law\u00adsuit, sev\u00aden\u00adteen-year-old daugh\u00adter Frances chose to live with her grand\u00admoth\u00ader and aunt.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nI sin\u00adcere\u00adly wish Paula Fox\u2019s great-grand\u00addaugh\u00adter Frances a tru\u00adly hap\u00adpy life!<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nThat\u2019s all for this gos\u00adsip sto\u00adry.<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nI don\u2019t know what I said either\u2014<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\nAll in all is all we all are\u2026<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012010027768.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/201012010027768.jpg<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Paula&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\n\u2026\u2026.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\nLin\u00adda&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\n\u2026\u2026.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\nLove&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\n\u2026\u2026.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<br>\nFrances<br>\n&nbsp;<br>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/2010120102724825.jpg\">http:\/\/landaishu.zhongwenlink.com\/home\/upload20083\/2010120102724825.jpg<\/a><br>\nPaula Fox, aged three and a half (pho\u00adtographed between 1926 and 1927)<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u3000\u3000\u6211\u8981\u8bf4\u7684\u8fd9\u4e2a\u6545\u4e8b\u5f88\u516b\u5366\uff0c\u4e2d\u5fc3\u601d\u60f3\u5927\u6982\u662f\uff1a\u9057\u5f03\u5b69\u5b50\u8fd9\u79cd\u75c7\u5019\u662f\u53ef\u4ee5\u9057\u4f20\u7684\u3002\u9700\u8981\u4e8b\u5148\u8bf4\u660e\uff0c\u6545\u4e8b\u91cc\u8bf4\u7684\u9057\u5f03\u5e76\u4e0d\u90fd\u662f [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wp_typography_post_enhancements_disabled":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[442,445,63,197,446,26,444,443,92],"class_list":["post-3650","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-timemachine","tag-442","tag-445","tag-63","tag-197","tag-446","tag-26","tag-444","tag-443","tag-92"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3650","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3650"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3650\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3650"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3650"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ajia.site\/blog\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3650"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}