My words are very easy to under\u00adstand and very easy to put into prac\u00adtice. Yet no one in the world can under\u00adstand them, and no one can put them into prac\u00adtice.
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\nThe pre\u00advi\u00adous arti\u00adcle talked about mar\u00adriage and child-rear\u00ading, which can be seen as a kind of love prac\u00adtice (Chat\u00adting about the prac\u00adtice of love<\/a>\u300b);
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\nIn my hum\u00adble opin\u00adion, the fam\u00adi\u00adly ver\u00adsion of spir\u00adi\u00adtu\u00adal prac\u00adtice requires a vow to cre\u00adate a hap\u00adpy and har\u00admo\u00adnious fam\u00adi\u00adly atmos\u00adphere (A hap\u00adpy fam\u00adi\u00adly is the breed\u00ading ground for a per\u00adfect edu\u00adca\u00adtion or \u201cSome sug\u00adges\u00adtions on being a good father\u201d\u2026<\/a>\u300b);
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\nAs for spe\u00adcif\u00adic edu\u00adca\u00adtion\u00adal meth\u00adods, I always feel that they are minor. It seems that the worst method may also bring good results. The cause and effect must be explored deep in the heart. Love is the foun\u00adda\u00adtion, which is the basis of prac\u00adtice (\u201cCon\u00adtin\u00adu\u00ading the sto\u00adry of the cul\u00adti\u00adva\u00adtion of love: a sto\u00adry about a father who beat his child\u2026<\/a> \u300b);
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\nEdu\u00adca\u00adtion is exis\u00adtence itself.
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\nI often hear peo\u00adple ask: How do we edu\u00adcate chil\u00addren? How can we ensure that so-and-so (usu\u00adal\u00adly fathers) are not absent from our chil\u00addren\u2019s upbring\u00ading? And so on. But I often won\u00adder: What sin\u00adgle thing do we do that isn\u2019t rel\u00ade\u00advant to rais\u00ading chil\u00addren? Even a sin\u00adgle thought or idea in our hearts isn\u2019t rel\u00ade\u00advant? Just give me an exam\u00adple, and I\u2019ll tell you it\u2019s actu\u00adal\u00adly rel\u00ade\u00advant, even if it\u2019s a long, wind\u00ading road. Just try it, O(\u2229_\u2229)O~
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\nAccom\u00adpa\u00adny\u00ading chil\u00addren is edu\u00adca\u00adtion, not accom\u00adpa\u00adny\u00ading chil\u00addren is also edu\u00adca\u00adtion; hav\u00ading chil\u00addren in mind is edu\u00adca\u00adtion, not hav\u00ading chil\u00addren in mind is also edu\u00adca\u00adtion; quar\u00adrels and fights between hus\u00adband and wife are edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren, cold wars between hus\u00adband and wife are also edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren, and har\u00admo\u00adny between hus\u00adband and wife is also edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren; how we treat our par\u00adents and sib\u00adlings is edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren; how we treat work and life is edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren; how we deal with the rela\u00adtion\u00adship between our\u00adselves and the world is also edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren; even what we think in our hearts, but don\u2019t say out loud, and don\u2019t turn into actions, is also edu\u00adca\u00adtion for chil\u00addren\u2026 As long as we exist between this world, how can we escape this cir\u00adcle of edu\u00adcat\u00ading and being edu\u00adcat\u00aded?
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\nBud\u00addhism says that all things are born from caus\u00ades and con\u00addi\u00adtions, and that to prac\u00adtice, one must believe in cause and effect, and in kar\u00adma. Although I am not a Bud\u00addhist, I think this is a very con\u00adve\u00adnient way of say\u00ading it, and it con\u00adtains great wis\u00addom. The oth\u00ader day, when I was sort\u00ading through the life of an Amer\u00adi\u00adcan writer, I came across a bunch of gos\u00adsip sto\u00adries that made me sigh. Isn\u2019t that a cen\u00adtu\u00adry-long chain of cause and effect that hap\u00adpened in a fam\u00adi\u00adly? \u2014 Sci\u00adence may say that it is genet\u00adic inher\u00adi\u00adtance; soci\u00adol\u00ado\u00adgy may say that it is the rela\u00adtion\u00adship between the envi\u00adron\u00adment and peo\u00adple; dialec\u00adti\u00adcal mate\u00adri\u00adal\u00adism says \u201cwhere there is a cause, there must be an effect, and where there is an effect, there must be a cause\u201d\u2026 Every\u00adone just has dif\u00adfer\u00adent con\u00adve\u00adnient ways of say\u00ading it. The prin\u00adci\u00adple is very clear and can be under\u00adstood with\u00adout say\u00ading. (\u201cCon\u00adtin\u00adu\u00ading the Gos\u00adsip Chap\u00adter of Love Cul\u00adti\u00adva\u00adtion \u2014 A Sto\u00adry of a Moth\u00ader Who Aban\u00addoned Her Child\u2026<\/a>\u300b\uff09
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\nSo the prac\u00adtice of love that I\u2019m talk\u00ading about is every\u00adwhere. Every word, every action, every thought, every con\u00adsid\u00ader\u00ada\u00adtion can\u00adnot escape it.
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\nThere\u00adfore, the sto\u00adries about spir\u00adi\u00adtu\u00adal prac\u00adtice are basi\u00adcal\u00adly as calm as water, far less excit\u00ading than the gos\u00adsip sto\u00adries. Don\u2019t be sur\u00adprised :)
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\nNot long ago, it snowed heav\u00adi\u00adly. A father and his daugh\u00adter went down\u00adstairs to play in the snow, and they were very hap\u00adpy.
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\nIt was a won\u00adder\u00adful snow\u00adfall, ankle-deep and unmelt\u00aded for days. My daugh\u00adter asked her father, \u201cHow about we build a snow fort?\u201d He said we need\u00aded some tools. So, he found some pro\u00adfes\u00adsion\u00adal tools for shov\u00adel\u00ading, paint\u00ading, and cleaning\u2014they were quite handy for play\u00ading in the snow.
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\nAfter a busy after\u00adnoon, father and daugh\u00adter final\u00adly con\u00adstruct\u00aded a spec\u00adtac\u00adu\u00adlar snow fortress in a seclud\u00aded area of the com\u00admu\u00adni\u00adty. The fortress itself is mas\u00adsive, with tun\u00adnels extend\u00ading in all direc\u00adtions. A snow slope serves as a wall, and tow\u00aders sur\u00adround it. The entrances to the fortress are locat\u00aded at the three tow\u00aders, each divid\u00aded into a life gate and a death gate. Enter\u00ading through the life gate grants sur\u00advival, while enter\u00ading through the death gate will result in a snow sculp\u00adture, eter\u00adnal\u00adly unmelt\u00aded. Rumor has it that this fortress was built by alien vis\u00adi\u00adtors, and the mod\u00adel is the shape of an inter\u00adstel\u00adlar bat\u00adtle\u00adship. The base was built on an ice island in the Arc\u00adtic Cir\u00adcle, in the first year of the Snow Fortress. Lat\u00ader, the aliens, home\u00adsick, evac\u00adu\u00adat\u00aded overnight, but a few, secret\u00adly attached to Earth, remained, pre\u00adserv\u00ading the fortress for future com\u00admu\u00adni\u00adca\u00adtion. This fortress holds many mys\u00adter\u00adies. The only thing built in this com\u00admu\u00adni\u00adty is a mod\u00adel.
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\nIt was\u00adn\u2019t until dusk that the father and daugh\u00adter final\u00adly returned home, hav\u00ading enjoyed them\u00adselves to the fullest. From then on, they made a dai\u00adly detour to vis\u00adit the snow fort dur\u00ading their walks. Thank\u00adful\u00adly, while the mod\u00adel has shown signs of weath\u00ader\u00ading and occa\u00adsion\u00adal attempts at van\u00addal\u00adism, it has remained large\u00adly intact to this day. It seems even those ras\u00adcal\u00adly chil\u00addren would\u00adn\u2019t have the heart to dam\u00adage it.
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\nDai\u00adly walks in the snow demand\u00aded con\u00adstant cre\u00adativ\u00adi\u00adty. Of course, the most ancient of these was to bend down, pick up a snow\u00adball, or even roll one your\u00adself, and throw it at each oth\u00ader, euphemisti\u00adcal\u00adly called a \u201csnow\u00adball fight.\u201d When\u00adev\u00ader they ran out of new ideas, father and daugh\u00adter resort\u00aded to snow\u00adball fights. But the daugh\u00adter was no match, so while it was called a fight, she was real\u00adly just a tar\u00adget. But there was one rule: avoid hit\u00adting the head, espe\u00adcial\u00adly the eyes.
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\nThat night\u2019s walk, the father was real\u00adly tired, and he was also think\u00ading about sev\u00ader\u00adal home\u00adwork assign\u00adments that need\u00aded to be hand\u00aded in urgent\u00adly. He was inevitably a lit\u00adtle anx\u00adious and just want\u00aded to fin\u00adish walk\u00ading the dog and go home quick\u00adly. So he said to his daugh\u00adter, let\u2019s not play snow\u00adballs today, let\u2019s just take a walk and go home. The daugh\u00adter felt bored and went to play in the snow by her\u00adself. She found that although there was less snow now, there were more hard snow blocks. She picked up a piece, rubbed it care\u00adful\u00adly, and turned it into a per\u00adfect snow\u00adball. So she chased after her father who was walk\u00ading in front, and shout\u00aded, \u201cDad, look!\u201d The snow\u00adball flew out of her hand. When the father was about to turn around, he felt a blunt object hit him behind his ear. With a buzzing sound, blood rushed to his head. When he saw that it was the snow\u00adball attack, he imme\u00addi\u00adate\u00adly became furi\u00adous and scold\u00aded him harsh\u00adly. Unex\u00adpect\u00aded\u00adly, the daugh\u00adter was even more angry and shout\u00aded, \u201cSo what! Did\u00adn\u2019t you hit some\u00adone on the head too?\u201d
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\nDad was so angry he was speech\u00adless. What the hell was going on? If you want to have a snow\u00adball fight, you should at least declare war in advance. And the rules say you can\u2019t throw it at the head. An acci\u00adden\u00adtal hit is anoth\u00ader mat\u00adter. And as a father, how could he have the heart to throw so hard? Even a slight hit would be a minor blow\u2026 It\u2019s like a schol\u00adar meet\u00ading a sol\u00addier, with no clear rea\u00adson\u00ading. It was real\u00adly unfair. He\u2019d been teach\u00ading his daugh\u00adter to hit a tree with per\u00adfect aim these days. If it had been a tree, her aim and strength would have been top-notch, and she\u2019d have got\u00adten full marks. But she hit the back of her head! Isn\u2019t that unfair?
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\nThe father was so angry that he stormed all the way home, still feel\u00ading a pain behind his ear. The daugh\u00adter was not to be out\u00addone, she also turned her head away and ignored her father, and went home on her own.
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\nWhen the moth\u00ader saw the two guys com\u00ading back in a huff, she did\u00adn\u2019t know what had hap\u00adpened and want\u00aded to try to per\u00adsuade them, but she did\u00adn\u2019t know where to start.
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\nMy daugh\u00adter sat on her bed, ignor\u00ading every\u00adone, picked up \u201cThe Adven\u00adtures of Tintin\u201d and read it silent\u00adly, look\u00ading annoyed. \u2014 Pause! Speak\u00ading of this, I\u2019d like to insert a com\u00adic adver\u00adtise\u00adment. I believe that peo\u00adple who love read\u00ading comics will live longer. From this scene, we can see that at least chil\u00addren who love read\u00ading comics are bet\u00adter at reliev\u00ading their neg\u00ada\u00adtive emo\u00adtions. Let\u2019s con\u00adtin\u00adue -
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\nDad also returned to the study, turned on the com\u00adput\u00ader, and pre\u00adpared to do his home\u00adwork, but he could\u00adn\u2019t write it. Think\u00ading about his daugh\u00adter next door who was watch\u00ading comics to relieve her bore\u00addom, while he had to endure the headache and con\u00adtin\u00adue to work, the more he thought about it, the more angry he became \u2014 why did\u00adn\u2019t this child feel any guilt at all? At least say\u00ading sor\u00adry would be enough. Is there some\u00adthing wrong with the usu\u00adal dis\u00adci\u00adpline method? For\u00adget about respect\u00ading teach\u00aders and elders. Even if he acci\u00adden\u00adtal\u00adly hit an ordi\u00adnary per\u00adson, should\u00adn\u2019t he say some\u00adthing soft\u00adly and apol\u00ado\u00adgize? Although what is said in the \u201cDis\u00adci\u00adpline for Chil\u00addren\u201d is a bit too much, look\u00ading at his daugh\u00adter\u2019s cur\u00adrent state, isn\u2019t the oppo\u00adsite too much?
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\nThe father became more and more angry, so he delib\u00ader\u00adate\u00adly walked out of the study and wan\u00addered around the house, hop\u00ading that his daugh\u00adter might have a change of heart and come out to admit her mis\u00adtake.
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\nBut noth\u00ading hap\u00adpened! It was unbear\u00adable\u2026
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\nHow\u00adev\u00ader, Dad thought again, did it real\u00adly mean \u201cnoth\u00ading hap\u00adpened\u201d?
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\nNo, in fact, what hap\u00adpened, \u201cnoth\u00ading hap\u00adpened\u201d is the same as \u201csome\u00adthing hap\u00adpened\u201d. It\u2019s con\u00adfus\u00ading, right?
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\nCome to think of it, my daugh\u00adter usu\u00adal\u00adly starts to enjoy her\u00adself after read\u00ading com\u00adic books like The Adven\u00adtures of Tintin after a while, but why is she so qui\u00adet now?
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\nThe father glanced over there and saw that his daugh\u00adter was look\u00ading at the book with a tense face. She had nev\u00ader been so seri\u00adous even when read\u00ading text\u00adbooks, let alone comics.
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\nAlas, when my father\u2019s heart soft\u00adened, he turned back to his study in bore\u00addom. Just as he was about to close the door, he sud\u00adden\u00adly remem\u00adbered the words in a book:
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\n\u201cCourage is being the first to make peace after an argu\u00adment!\u201d
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\nYes, as a father, think about it: why do you find it so dif\u00adfi\u00adcult to rec\u00adon\u00adcile with your child first? Because she\u2019s your child. That close\u00adness makes it seem even more dif\u00adfi\u00adcult. If it were some\u00adone else, would\u00adn\u2019t you be more like\u00adly to be mag\u00adnan\u00adi\u00admous? On the oth\u00ader hand, why does\u00adn\u2019t your daugh\u00adter apol\u00ado\u00adgize to you? Isn\u2019t the rea\u00adson the same? You\u2019re her father. If it were some\u00adone else, a com\u00adplete stranger, she would have apol\u00ado\u00adgized pro\u00adfuse\u00adly long ago. Would\u00adn\u2019t your child know that?
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\nSo the father came to his daugh\u00adter\u2019s bed, sat down, opened his arms and said: \u201cOkay, let dad\u00addy hug you, be hap\u00adpy. If you are unhap\u00adpy, hit dad\u00addy twice.\u201d
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\nAt this moment, my moth\u00ader came over and took the oppor\u00adtu\u00adni\u00adty to say: Okay, let me help you hit him a few times!
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\nBang, bang, bang\u2014okay, the snow\u00adball tar\u00adget has been changed into a box\u00ading sand\u00adbag again.
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\nThis sto\u00adry tells us that being a father is not easy!
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\nThat\u2019s the end of the sto\u00adry.
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\nSto\u00adries like this hap\u00adpen almost every day. Each direc\u00adtor, screen\u00adwriter, and pro\u00adtag\u00ado\u00adnist (unfor\u00adtu\u00adnate\u00adly, there are no sup\u00adport\u00ading roles in this kind of dra\u00adma) are dif\u00adfer\u00adent, so the plots are nat\u00adu\u00adral\u00adly very dif\u00adfer\u00adent. But if you look close\u00adly, they are basi\u00adcal\u00adly the same.
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\nHav\u00ading said that, \u201cCon\u00adtin\u00adue to Talk about the Prac\u00adtice of Love\u201d is about to come to an end.
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\nFinal\u00adly, I\u2019ll share a lit\u00adtle tid\u00adbit: there was sup\u00adposed to be a sequel to the father-daugh\u00adter snow\u00adball fight, but the screen\u00adwriter ran out of time and had to slap one in. It\u2019s actu\u00adal\u00adly quite excit\u00ading. In the sequel, the daugh\u00adter miss\u00ades her shot again, and this time it\u2019s even more impres\u00adsive, hit\u00adting her father in the right eye at close range. This time, the father rushed home and applied a warm com\u00adpress. For\u00adtu\u00adnate\u00adly, the eye was fine, just a black eye. This time, the daugh\u00adter also showed improve\u00adment. She actu\u00adal\u00adly came back and hugged him and said \u201cI\u2019m sor\u00adry,\u201d which real\u00adly touched him. That blow was worth it~(@^_^@)~
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